Elon is different. People called and still call Jobs a jerk (as James Gosling in his interview with Lex Fridman). Elon shows erratic behavior from time to time, but I do not think people would call him a jerk.
I think his transphobic and downplaying covid tweets got him called a jerk. Oh and the pedophile accusation against that guy that rescued the kids from the cave. I think he was a jerk for that one.