I work with maybe 100 people on a consistent basis. I probably know 25 of their names. Many of these interactions are random one offs, large meetings, etc. Many of them are foreign (to me) compounding my difficulty with their names. In addition I'm remote so can't associate names and faces, everyone is just white text on a black background. If any portion of this group started requesting I use varied pronouns I would probably lose my job in short order. Not because I don't care but because I am so incredibly busy I simply don't have the mental reserves to do it. Currently I am regularly working weekends and until 4 in the morning. I'm burnt. To expect me to somehow remember people's pronouns is a mission impossible.
I don't remember individual interactions with many of my coworkers at all, they all blur together.
If work wants me to do it then they'll need to reduce my workload by half just so my mind can absorb it.
You situation doesn't seem very healthy regardless of the topic at hand. I hope you'll be able to find a way to get a lighter workload.
Remote too, but I met most people in person at least once, we use avatars, and definitely don't work with 100 people.
That said I know a few trans people, the number of people I know with pronouns that don't match the name is 0. The number of people wanting the equivalent of they in my language is so small I can remember it easily.
I don't remember individual interactions with many of my coworkers at all, they all blur together.
If work wants me to do it then they'll need to reduce my workload by half just so my mind can absorb it.