An other common sense thing: you don't magically get the child at 5, there's this long long process from the baby that can't feed himself and is pretty close to resistive clay on the moral point of view, to the 2 years old that becomes pretty good at understanding what's going around, the 3 years old that can do and think so much more by himself, to the 5 years old who's quite socialized etc.
There's many many stages, the kid has limited abilities, and and you actually have go teach a lot of things, not just sit you kid on some watch tower and wait for him to understand. For a long time he just won't get it if you don't make an effort to teach him. This is where you'll want advices on what ways you can teach him, what 'works' and what doesn't.
Of course you don't sit them on some kind of 'watchtower' and wait for him to understand. You interact with them. You play with them, you cook with them, you build with them, you talk with them, and you read to them.
You never have to 'teach them things', they need to learn things from you. There's an enormous world of difference there.
Of course you should help him accomplish his objectives, and you should certainly do so with an eye toward the techniques or approaches he'll need to use to accomplish them on his own. There's a lot he doesn't know yet. But teaching technique and suggesting approaches is fundamentally different from attempting to impart characteristics and habits.
An other common sense thing: you don't magically get the child at 5, there's this long long process from the baby that can't feed himself and is pretty close to resistive clay on the moral point of view, to the 2 years old that becomes pretty good at understanding what's going around, the 3 years old that can do and think so much more by himself, to the 5 years old who's quite socialized etc.
There's many many stages, the kid has limited abilities, and and you actually have go teach a lot of things, not just sit you kid on some watch tower and wait for him to understand. For a long time he just won't get it if you don't make an effort to teach him. This is where you'll want advices on what ways you can teach him, what 'works' and what doesn't.